For a lot of folks, getting along with their spouse’s family is really important because they’re a big part of the person they care about. Even if they try really hard to connect with them, it doesn’t always work out. This user’s experience shows that sometimes it might be better to keep some distance from your in-laws.

My mom isn’t mean or anything, she just doesn’t want to be involved with my wife. I understand my mom because I know she’s tired. She’s had a tough life and doesn’t have much love to spare.

She’s really selfless and doesn’t like dealing with new people. She’s an older lady who just wants to relax on the porch and not have to chat with anyone. I’ve explained this to my wife and even shared my mom’s story with her.

My wife came back from work with a potato salad, but I didn’t want her to bring it to my mom’s house. Then, all evening, she kept bothering my mom, asking her to go shopping together. When my mom asked her to be quiet for a bit, my wife didn’t stop talking.

When I stepped in, my mom asked me to take my wife away from her. That upset my wife, but I still took her away because I knew my mom had very little patience left.

I said to her that my mom won’t ever like her, and she needs to stop acting like that. Her behavior just makes my mom dislike her more, so it’s best if she stays away from her. My wife called me stupid, and she hasn’t talked to me since.