Discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful is a devastating experience that shatters the very foundation of trust and commitment in a relationship. In today’s case, the situation was even more heart-wrenching.
She explained what happened.
My (F53) soon-to-be ex-husband Roger (47) had an affair, which I forgave. Four months ago, he came home with a baby. His girlfriend (22) couldn’t handle it and left the baby with him at work. She’s now in Spain. I let Roger stay with the baby as long as I didn’t have to do anything.
A month ago, Roger had a heart attack. He survived but is too weak to take care of himself or the baby. He can’t even drop off and pick up his son from daycare. I’ve been helping, but I’m done. My kids are grown, and I don’t want to take care of a baby.
I told Roger I wanted a divorce and contacted the baby’s maternal grandparents. I gave them until Friday to take the baby or I’d call Child Protective Services. They took the baby but criticized me for being cold towards the child. I see things differently.
Roger is recovering, and I will be moving out. The house is in his name, and I haven’t contributed financially to it. I have my own savings and, as per our prenup, they are mine. I work and don’t need anything from this marriage except my freedom.
My kids think I should stay and help their father. I told them they are welcome to help him with the baby and housework. They declined.
I don’t think I’m acting badly, but Roger, our kids, his child’s family, and some friends disagree. I’m hoping writing this out and reading responses will give me some clarity.
