A thirty-five-year-old woman, who wished to remain anonymous, chose to tell us her highly contentious tale. She was clearly ready for criticism as well as curious about the opinions of our audience regarding her complex problem.

“So I’m 35 and nine months ago I had a very messy and painful breakup with my fiancé, so I moved in with one of my friends and her husband in a house we are all now renting together,” she said as she began her latest post. I got to know my neighbor, Kevin, at that point. I fell in love with him right away when he assisted all of us in moving into the new home. We ended up taking the same bus to work every day at the same time because we both live in large city suburbs.

As she put it, “I knew Kevin had a wife and children.” Even though I knew it all along, I never let it stop me. Kevin frequently discussed them with me and even shared pictures of them on his lock screen. I also noticed some family photos of Kevin and his wife on their shared Facebook account. The entire relationship began as a very innocent, silly crush, so I didn’t mind at all.

The woman expressed her emotions to others.

The woman continues, narrating, “Kevin is a charming, humorous, and kind guy.” He inquired about my career and personal life during our first bus ride together, and I could tell he was genuinely interested in what I had to say. We frequently argued about this, something my ex never did.
Kevin is a selfless parent who always goes above and beyond for his children. He recently spent the entire drive to work talking on the phone with his young daughter, who needed some consolation before a school presentation. Since Kevin was kind and considerate with everyone else, I had no trouble picturing how wonderful and attentive he would be with me.

“I just knew that Kevin and I could easily become something more,” the woman continued. Not long after I started feeling something for Kevin, I also discovered that his wife is someone I went to school with. This surprised me since they are complete opposites. He’s exciting, she’s dull, he’s not intellectual, but she’s very smart, and he’s funny. She’s very dry. I simply felt that their personalities were completely mismatched, and because Kevin was so kind, I could see him becoming entangled in a relationship.

Kevin once asked the woman to help him out, and she complied.